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Upholding the highest ethical standards: As seen on Sky News, BBC and i News Therapeutic Coaching for Relationships and Individuals I offer sessions both online and face-to-face from my dedicated premises on Southernhay East in the centre of Exeter, Devon. In this professional and confidential space, you are warmly invited to offload, explore, develop, and discover.  I specialise in working with individuals and relationships  -be they life partners or business partners - who understand the transformative power of structured, meaningful conversations. Together, we will: - Expand your thinking - Clarify your professional and personal goals - Overcome personal obstacles - Explore and realise your full potential Life often presents profound challenges; be it loss, illness, relationship upheavals, career transitions, or episodes of depression and anxiety. Such events compel us to re-examine our ways of being. I invite you to seize these moments as opportunities to embrace change an...

Working Together. Loving Together.

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I work with many relationships where a couple run a business together, or work together. They come from all sorts of backgrounds including people in  creative industries, healthcare, hospitality, retail and professional services.  Some have built businesses from scratch, others have inherited family businesses, and others have gradually found themselves working side by side as opportunities arose.   Despite the wide range of different industries, I hear remarkably similar stories and the work we do covers several issues that typically arise in couples who work together.  These are not necessarily business problems so much as relationship problems unfolding in the context of work. Together all the time and yet lonelier than ever Many couples describe missing one another, even though they spend almost all of their time together. At first this can sound rather odd. How can you miss somebody you see every day? You can share an office, drive to work together, collect the ...

The Four C’s of Relational Excellence ©: An Integrative Framework for Relationship Coaching

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I have developed a simple tool for working with relationships designed to provide a coherent structure that brings together the various CPD (continuing professional development) and training I have undertaken over the years. I use this framework in sessions with clients and have been developing worksheets to support our work between meetings. With over 11 years of working with relationships, I integrate elements from modalities and tools such as Imago Theory, Gottman Method and Nonviolent Communication. I weave this together with other strands of psychology and psychotherapy such as Attachment Theory and research into how our minds and bodies work, particularly our survival responses and how adaptations formed in childhood impact on how we are in relationships.   My coaching training gave me a refreshing perspective on a growth mindset and the structured nature of coaching. I decided that I needed a framework akin to those found in coaching sessions, such as the GROW and CLEAR mode...

Doubling Down on Striving for Relational Excellence in the Wake of Global Relational Rupture

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a sanity saving swim at Glencoe I know I am not alone in sitting with a sense of heaviness and unease. Not just anger at a political moment, but something deeper: a global relational rupture.  The death of Renee Nicole Good who was shot and killed by an ICE agent in Minneapolis on January 7, 2026, has become a flashpoint not just because of what happened, but because of how people are talking about it.  Thousands have protested her death, not because they all agree on every detail, but because of the sense that something profoundly human has been lost and demeaned. Donald Trump claimed, without evidence, that she was part of a “ leftwing network ” of paid agitators; a tactic that shifts attention from the human being who lived, loved, and was killed to a political caricature. This pattern; of reducing a person to a political problem, a threat, a label, is itself a form of dehumanisation. It is not only what was said in the aftermath about Renee; it is what has more broadly bec...

A professional milestone (again, sort of)

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13th January 2026 I’ve been approved for (the new) Senior Accredited Registrant membership (SNCPS Acc.). After effectively losing Senior Accreditation with the BACP, along with many other Senior practitioners ahead of the SCoPEd changes, the process with the NCPS was very hard work but fair. I joined the NCPS in April this year, as an existing Senior Accredited member of the BACP, one week before the BACP demoted me to Accredited member status at my membership renewal date. I value that the NCPS gave existing Senior Accredited members the opportunity to reapply for this new "Column C" aligned Senior Accreditation, free of charge, before the SCoPEd transition period ended. It was incredibly hard work and I spent somewhere around 150 hours on it. It was an application that had to demonstrate robust, Masters-level academic rigour.  I didn't go to University. At 17 I bailed out of first year A levels feeling utterly rudderless. I was studying Biology, Chemistry and Sociology ...