Relational Coaching Together
Personal Development For People Who Want To Grow, Side By Side.
This is a space for couples and partnerships, romantic or otherwise, who want to explore life’s messiness together rather than in separate silos. It’s not classic “couples therapy” where the relationship is the problem. It’s something different. Two people, one room, showing up honestly to do their own work, with and alongside each other.
There’s something uniquely powerful about working like this. It’s dynamic and can be incredibly effective and efficient. You see things, in yourself and in the other, that might have taken years to emerge in solo work. And because it’s relational, it reflects the real world more accurately than a one-on-one setup often can.
Who is this for?
This kind of work resonates most with people who operate as partners. Not in the traditional or patriarchal sense, but as equals. You’re not looking for someone to take charge or fix things. You’re here because both of you are invested in understanding yourselves, and how your lives and choices intersect.
It suits:
Couples or throuples who frame challenges as “ours” not “yours”
Progressive heteronormative couples who are reflective, curious and open
Queer, non-traditional or relationship anarchist partnerships
Friends, co-parents, or creative collaborators who are navigating growth together
Why work this way?
Because it reflects how real life works. We don’t exist in a vacuum. We’re shaped by the people around us, especially the ones closest to us. When two people are willing to sit in that space together, with openness and care, things begin to move.
This is a kind of "mini group work", but it isn't random people thrown together.There’s already a bond here. Something shared. You get to explore that in real time, with support. Often what emerges in these sessions is quicker and deeper than in solo work.
One of the frameworks I think about here is the Johari Window. It’s a simple way of mapping out what we know about ourselves and what others see in us. There are things we know and share. Things we know but keep private. Things others can see in us that we haven’t yet seen for ourselves. And then there’s the unknown; what we can't yet name, but may get revealed when the conditions are right.
Working in this way opens more of that window. There’s more space for what’s unspoken to become visible, and for what’s in the blind spot to come gently into focus.
There is something powerful that happens here. This way of working is live, transparent and relational. Things emerge that might take much longer in individual work. You see yourself more clearly. You see the other more fully.
It can be challenging, but it is also deeply connective.
You are not here to fix or be fixed. You are here because you are already committed to your own process and are willing to show up with someone you care about.
Changing times - new relationships dynamics
We’re also working against a backdrop of change. A lot of therapy still leans on individualistic or hierarchical assumptions, ideas that don’t hold up anymore. Today’s relationships are more fluid, more negotiated. More heterarchal. They deserve approaches that can meet them where they are.
This approach challenges the idea that therapy or coaching must centre the isolated individual. It reflects how people grow in the real world; in relationship, in community, in dialogue.
It is responsive to how relationships are changing. Many people today are building more fluid, more negotiated ways of being together.
This work is inclusive by design. It welcomes all constellations; LGBTQIA+, co-parenting teams, creative partnerships, business collaborators, and chosen families.
It is relational. It is socially conscious.
Is this the right space for you?
If you’re in high conflict, or there’s a lack of emotional safety in the relationship, this probably isn’t the right fit. This isn’t crisis response or traditional couples counselling. It’s better suited for those who already have a foundation of care and trust, and want to build on that with intention.
You might be:
Facing a life decision or transition that affects you both
Wanting to understand each other more deeply
Doing personal work already, and feeling ready to expand it together
Curious about your shared dynamics and willing to explore them in real time
This work requires some emotional maturity, a willingness to look inward, and a shared sense that growth doesn’t have to be solitary. If that sounds like you please get in touch.
You might also be interested in this post, where I write about moving away from dominator models and toward partnership-based relating. That’s really at the heart of this approach. Not just changing how we do relationships, but how we do healing together.